Why Your Diet is Making You Fat

Is your diet making you fat? Read this article and learn more about why diets make you fat and how to get real results fast.

Is your diet making you fat?

Ok we have to talk.

I’m tired of you telling me your diet didn’t work. You gained back the weight you lost and now you feel sad, frustrated, and “hangry” (hungry/angry). So now you are looking for the next quick solution to “fix” your weight and solve your food problems.

Look, I want to help you. But I’ll be honest: if you want to have a breakthrough you are going to need to let the diets GO. You’ll need to give up the cleanses, fasts, 5/10/20/30 day programs, and fixes. You’ll have to stop the extremes, the yo-yoing, the guilt tripping, and get off the trendy rollercoaster ride of eating. Are you ready to do that? Can you work for a balanced, moderate diet? It might be time to change your relationship with food and how you choose to eat…. because let’s face it: your diet is making you fat.

How Diets Make You Fat

Diets are inherently made to fail. If you don’t believe me, how do you think the weight loss industry maintains it’s multi-billion dollar status each year? If diets work, then they should go out of business because everyone who goes on a diet will lose their weight and keep it off. Instead, diets are made to NOT work so that you will continue to need books, expensive rabbit food, magical elixirs, pills and potions and other nonsense to try to reach your goals.

The problems with diets are simple. Here are a few illustrations of how things can go from bad to worse very quickly:

  • too few Calories leads to
  • being hungry, which leads to
  • food cravings, which leads to
  • bingeing, weight gain, calling it quits, which leads to
  • feelings of guilt, shame, being “out of control” and a failure, which leads to
  • “getting serious this time”, re-committing, “building willpower”, trying a different diet, which leads to
  • the same cycle (or a different but equally damaging cycle)

Here’s another common scenario:

  • rigid food rules about what and when you eat lead to
  • feelings of deprivation, lack of freedom, rebellion, being trapped or controlled which leads to
  • breaking food rules, which leads to
  • feelings of guilt, shame, being “out of control” and a failure, which leads to (sound familiar?)
  • the same cycle (or a different but equally damaging cycle)

And if I haven’t been convincing enough, here’s one more:

  • weight loss from restrictive eating and exercising more leads to
  • a damaged metabolism where you are maintaining your weight on 1,000 Calories a day, which leads to
  • increased physiological drive to eat (hello hunger and cravings), which leads to
  • eating more than 1,000 Calories a day, which leads to
  • rapid weight regain, which leads to
  • feelings of guilt, shame, being “out of control” and a failure, which leads to (sound familiar?)
  • the same or different cycle

All these cycles end up with you ending the diet, being upset at yourself (instead of the stupid diet), and weighing the same as when you started the diet (or more) but now also being self-critical, discouraged, angry, etc.

Its time to ignore the hype and lose the extremes. If a program offers “instant” results—AKA, 30 days or less—it is probably either complete  nonsense or extremely unhealthy. As fabulous as it would be to go from size 12 to size 6 in one month, it’s simply not feasible or sustainable. The kinds of diets that promise this kind of impossibly fast change are usually those that encourage you to starve yourself and deprive your body of essential nutrients in favor of dropping pounds or getting “lean” for your swimsuit. This is unsustainable because your body can’t function off of salads or juices for long before it starts deteriorating. You’re also pretty much guaranteed to gain back the weight afterward.

If you really want to find a healthy weight and lasting change that doesn’t mess with your mind,  avoid falling into the “quick fix” trap and instead make small healthy consistent changes. Many studies have shown those who focus on slow and steady diet changes are far better at sustaining it. Start small and make healthy diet changes that work for you. Eat a better breakfast, have one less glass of wine, eat more veggies, watch your portion sizes, drink more water, enjoy dessert 2 nights a week instead of 7, take out artificial sweeteners, eat more fiber, cut back on how many drinks you have at happy hour…. It all adds up and equals a healthier you. 

For example: one of my clients started packing healthy lunches to take to work. She’s noticed a jump in her energy levels, has lost 5 pounds, and is saving money on eating out. Another client has given up drinking alcohol on the weeknights. She sleeps better, feels less stressed, and yes, you guessed it, her weight has dropped. Another client fights stress with movement. Instead of hitting the work candy jar when she feels overwhelmed, she stands up to do a few stretches and deep breathing exercises at her desk. After a few minutes of exercise, her sugar cravings are gone, her mind feels clear, and she continues on with her work day with less stress and more energy. Small changes work. Really! Remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day – the secret to lasting lifestyle change is to create healthy habits and keep going in a positive direction. Motivation is what gets you started, habit is what keeps you going.

Maybe you think that if you could just find the right diet or just lose the last 5 pounds it would solve all your problems. I hate to break it to you but it wont. You have to face those on your own. But I can guarantee you that when you have a healthy relationship to yourself you’ll find a healthy relationship to food and how you eat. It starts with you. And you can choose to have a positive relationship to your diet now.

Your body wants you to eat well. Eating healthy foods makes you feel better and have more energy, along with reducing digestion problems and mood swings. Eating for energy means eating clean, eating regularly, and eating light. Be moderate with alcohol, stay away from emotional eating, and MOVE more! Within a short period of time your days and nights will not only be filled but fulfilled.

So drop the diet. Just eat HEALTHY. There is no quick fix diet out there that will do what healthy eating does. Not to mention  if you go “on a diet” it means you’ll eventually have to go off of it. Which slows your metabolism, messes with your weight, and makes you feel bad about yourself. Want lasting, healthy, positive change that doesn’t have a yo-yo effect? Improve your relationship to food and choose to nourish yourself. Don’t just eat salads or jump on the next 30 day nothing but juice fix. Take the time to learn about nutrition and define what your body needs to eat to feel amazing. Yes it’s hard. Yes it takes time, consistency, and commitment. It’s not a quick fix and it’s not over in 30 days. It’s a lifetime of trial, error, self-discovery, development, and growth.  And you know what? It’s worth every second and ounce of effort. Because YOU are worth it. You deserve to live a life that feels good and that lasts longer than any quick fix.

Heres to you, living a life you love.

Caroline

Are you ready to learn how to listen to what your body needs and eat well? Join my Strong Body Beautiful program and get tools and tips to stay consistent and balanced, overcome plateaus, and find a healthy relationship with exercise and food. Enroll here. 

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Would you lend a word and be a part of my book?

Friends and family,

Thanks to your support, my book “Balanced Body Breakthrough” has reached its funding goal and will be a PUBLISHED book in the world! The production process has started and Im working with the Inkshares publishing team to move forward. Its exciting and so fun! There are a lot of materials to pull together to submit: the dedication, the forward, the front matter, afterword, etc. One piece is the “Praise for the Author”: testimonials of reader experience with me and my work over the years. I have one small favor to ask from you, would you be open to sharing your words, stories, or testimonials about me as a coach and wellness professional for my book “Balanced Body Breakthrough”?

Where are you on your healthy life journey? Have I helped you along the way?  I am hoping to submit the “Praise for the Author” piece of the book by February 26th, 2016. If you’d be so kind to lend a few words on your experience with my work or coaching as a testimonial for my book “Balanced Body Breakthrough” it would mean the world. Email your “praise for the author” note to : carolinejordanfitness@gmail.com . Thank you for your continued encouragement and support in writing this book. I couldn’t do it without you. 

I aspire to be the coach that adds more value to your world by giving you tools that you can immediately use to improve your wellness and life. I work to help you dream big and back it up with daily actions to create measurable results. I want to help you stay positive, grounded, and feel good from the inside out. I am here to help you realize your greatest potential and fulfill your vision of living well.

Thank you for being a part of my community online and off. You are the reason I love my work and I hope to help you live a life you love through it.

You can continue to support the Balanced Body Breakthrough book, order copies, follow the production process, and check out updates on the project at: https://www.inkshares.com/books/balanced-body-breakthrough . Heres to the next steps, seeing this book come to life, and watching the positive effects come from it.

With a heart full of gratitude,

Caroline

70 Actionable Ways to Love Yourself and Love Your Life.

“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”
– Lucille Ball

Want to fall in love? Start with yourself. Here are 70 actionable ways to love yourself and love your life.

When Valentine’s Day approaches, we all start looking for signs of love outside of ourselves—chocolate, cards, phone calls, flowers, gifts or other sweet sentiments.  It’s all too easy to connect our happiness to these external factors and use these things to define the level of love in our lives.

Yet it’s important to remember that happiness is not really determined by the external world, but by the world found inside of you. No amount of flowers, gifts, or love from someone else can fill a void created by a lack of internal happiness. Love is an inside job—and the irony of it is, in order to receive it, we have to already have it. So with Valentine’s Day coming up, Id like to invite you to look at your relationship with yourself and your life. Are you in love with it?

Love takes work. Relationships take work. And the love you have for yourself and your life – yes, you guessed it – takes work. Just like anything worth working for, great love doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time, sweat, dedication, patience, practice, persistence, and a positive attitude. It’s a never ending work in progress but one thing I know for sure: learning to love yourself is a sure way to bring more happiness into your life. Here are 70 actionable ways you can love yourself and create a positive, powerful relationship to your life.

70 Ways to fall in Love With Yourself and Love Your Life.  

  1. Love yourself first.
  2. Live in the present moment.
  3. Don’t ignore the past.
  4. Look for the good in everyone.
  5. Don’t believe everything you think.
  6. Be honest with yourself.
  7. Do what you enjoy doing.
  8. Eat foods that nourish you from the inside out.
  9. Travel. As often as possible.
  10. Give back to others.
  11. Practice patience.
  12. Don’t avoid conflict.
  13. Know what really matters.
  14. Learn to say no.
  15. Learn to say yes.
  16. Create positive rituals.
  17. Find something to believe in.
  18. Accept what you cannot change.
  19. Don’t try to change others.
  20. Let go, forgive, and move forward.
  21. Stand up for yourself.
  22. Be grateful for what you have.
  23. Avoid judgments, stereotypes, and assumptions.
  24. Expect good things.
  25. Be open-minded.
  26. Find a positive outlet.
  27. Use positive language (especially when talking to yourself).
  28. Take chances.
  29. Don’t sabotage your happiness. Get out of your own way.
  30. Find your voice and listen to it.
  31. Surround yourself with positive people.
  32. Believe in your ability to change your life.
  33. Don’t compare yourself to others.
  34. Ask for help.
  35. Take life one day at a time.
  36. Treat others how they want to be treated. Golden rule people!
  37. Don’t let fear hold you back. Feel the fear. Do it anyway.
  38. Avoid complaining.
  39. Don’t create unnecessary drama. Don’t put up with people that do.
  40. Stop making excuses.
  41. Get rid of mental clutter.
  42. Get rid of physical clutter.
  43. Set up clear boundaries.
  44. Seek out opportunities.
  45. Don’t take things personally.
  46. Celebrate the little things.
  47. Trust your intuition.
  48. Help others help themselves.
  49. Be a good listener.
  50. Don’t take life so seriously.
  51. Pick your battles.
  52. Highlight your strengths.
  53. Look for beauty everywhere.
  54. Let go of what you don’t need.
  55. Work hard and play hard.
  56. Know your life has a purpose.
  57. Greet yourself with love.
  58. Pay attention to what your body is saying.
  59. Take calming time-outs.
  60. Don’t wait for someday.
  61. Look for learning opportunities.
  62. Make time to play.
  63. Don’t settle. Ever.
  64. Don’t waste time on hate and envy.
  65. Handle stress positively.
  66. Inspire yourself – and others.
  67. Try your best in everything.
  68. Turn your face to the sun.
  69. Stop wanting to be what you’re not.
  70. Be your own hero.

“The most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself.”. Give yourself permission to fall in love with yourself, no matter what’s missing or what you wish could be different. You’ve got one life and like it or not, you are married to it. You might as well make it the relationship of a lifetime and find all the beauty in it. To love yourself right now, just as you are, is to give yourself heaven. Don’t wait until you die. If you wait, you die now. If you love, you live now. So go ahead! You have nothing to lose. Fall head over heels in love with yourself and love your life (every minute of it).

With love,

Caroline

Want more help on loving yourself inside and out? Check out my book, Balanced Body Breakthrough . I’ve got chapters worth of content on self love, self-esteem, and self-care. It will help you take action and love yourself so you can love your life.

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40 Minute Pilates Therapy Flow Video from My New Years Wellness Weekend at Solage Calistoga.

Welcome to Solage Calistoga. Copyright Solage Calistoga.

Welcome to Solage Calistoga. Copyright Solage Calistoga.

I kicked off 2016 by leading Caroline Jordan Fitness wellness workshops for a Wellness Retreat Weekend at Solage Calistoga Resort. It was a beautiful experience full of uplifting workouts, inspiring workshops, relaxing mineral baths, and goal setting for a bright year ahead. Solage Calistoga is a very special place and a gift to anyone who has the pleasure of being a guest. You really have to visit to experience its magic. It has a beauty and serenity to it that is all it’s own. Surrounded by breathtaking mountain ranges and steps from the charming downtown Calistoga in northern Napa Valley, Solage is a luxury resort known for its fine food, geothermal mineral baths, and healthy California lifestyle. Since its debut in 2007, the resort has garnered acclaim and numerous awards from many leading travel, dining, spa and lifestyle publications. They house a Michelin Star restaurant ~ SolBar, Travel and Leisure has named them on the 500 World’s Best List, Conde Nast Traveler has placed them on their Best Spa List, and the accolades go on and on. 

Solbar Restaurant at Solage Calistoga. Copyright Solage Calistoga.

Solbar Restaurant at Solage Calistoga. Copyright Solage Calistoga.

I’ve had the opportunity to partner with Solage Calistoga in the past for wellness workshops and events. It has been so much fun to work with them and inspire health and wellbeing through different programs. For this New Years Wellness Weekend I led two Caroline Jordan Fitness workshops. The first, “Start Strong” was an all-levels total body pilates and physical therapy based workout designed to help with strength and body balance. The second was my Caroline Jordan Fitness “Vision Board and Goals” workshop to help participants create the 2016 they want. Ive been leading Vision Board and Goals coaching workshops since 2012 and they have been some of my most well received offerings. I truly believe that when done with the right process, focus, and intention, the Vision Board can be a powerful exercise in creating the life you want and realizing your dreams. 

Walkway to the bathhouse at Solage Calistoga. Copyright Solage Calistoga.

Walkway to the bathhouse at Solage Calistoga. Copyright Solage Calistoga.

I feel so lucky to have had another opportunity to partner with Solage in hosting workshops in their beautiful space. Our weekend was a time to disconnect from our busy lives, reconnect to our health and wellbeing, and set a positive intention on the year to come. It was a retreat in every sense of the word. Here are a few fun photo memories from my weekend retreat and wellness workshops at Solage:

Missed the retreat but want to experience some of it with us? I took the opportunity during the weekend to film our “Start Strong” pilates therapy flow workout with my little flip camera. Roll out your mat, press play, and join part of our January Solage Wellness Retreat from your living room! This all levels routine moves through classic pilates and physical therapy exercises designed to help you build a strong and balanced body. All you need is a mat and a smile – you can take this workout with you anywhere. Leave me a comment below if you try the video and let me know how your body feels. 

Our weekend together was an experience I’ll never forget and kicked off 2016 in a powerful, positive way. And maybe it’s the post Solage Resort bliss talking, but I can FEEL the magic of 2016. It’s going to be a great year and I cant wait to share another uplifting workshop, workout, or experience with you in the days to come. 

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I hope you enjoy the above workout video and I look forward to sharing more fitness, wellness, and adventures with you in the year to come!

Yours in health,

Caroline

I lead health and wellness workshops and events all over the world. I work with individuals, groups, and companies as a wellness speaker, consultant, teacher and coach. Some of my clients include Genentech, Google, CALPers, Credit Karma, Hines, ReedSmith, DDB Group, Sephora, and RMC Water. I lead public workshops and retreats at luxury resorts like Solage Calistoga, Marriott Hotels, Fairmont Hotels, and W hotels. I provide onsite wellness coaching, special events, offsite retreats, day long seminars, wellness workshops, fitness classes, and stress management programs. My mission is to support others self care and in being happy, healthy, fit, and living a positive life.

For more information on coaching, corporate wellness, or booking a workshop, retreat, or event, contact me at : carolinejordanfitness@gmail.com

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